Q: Do you have any quick tips for helping to empower bystanders to report bullying staff might not observe?
A: Teach all campers what behaviors are considered bullying. Empower bystanders by teaching them to choose one of the following if they see, hear, or hear about bullying:
· Tell the bullies to stop
· Separate the bullies away from the person being bullied
· Separate the person being bullied away from the bullies
· Report to a trusted adult
During our on-site presentations, we teach these strategies through discussion, skits, and role-playing. We also include fun activities to teach the difference between tattling and telling.
Q: What tools do you recommend for taking a survey of students regarding bullying w/n school's environment?
A: Surveys help gather real and perceived information. We suggest surveying students, staff, bus drivers, and parents. Surveying helps staff determine the who, what, where, when and why of bullying in your school, which will help determine where best to apply resources and solutions. We offer a draft of a bus-driver survey on our website, www.BalanceEducation.net. Please contact us for other surveys we can provide.
Q: What would you do in a situation where the bully in a bunk is later ostracized by the group...when they decide, "We've had enough; if you are going to be mean, we don't want to include you."
A: In this situation, the bully is now the bullied. Counselors should follow the 4-step intervention. They should also teach bunkmates how to resolve their differences peacefully and how to express their thoughts respectfully. During this learning phase, additional supervision is necessary. Try non-competitive cooperative activities and games to create unity.
Q: We have a camp for special needs kids, deaf children, and I recently heard that some campers are not returning because of bullying. Have you found that any specific group has more "bullies" than other groups?
A: Bullying is an abuse of power and can happen in any group dynamic, regardless of age, gender, ability, etc. With this in mind, standard bullying prevention strategies need to be employed. This includes communicating which behaviors will not be tolerated, consistent staff response to bullying, teaching replacement behaviors, and reinforcing pro-social actions.
Q: What if after using the 4-step process the bully continues with the previous bad behaviors?
A: This child needs to have increased supervision. Staff needs to reinforce cooperative behavior when exhibited. In time, you will find that behavior will improve.
Q: We have a young girl (going into 8th grade next fall). This will be her fourth year at camp. Every year she has difficulties with her camper group and is always the victim. Staff see it differently. She has been heard to be very mean to other campers (no, they didn't use the technique given today). Mom completely sees her daughter as a victim and completely resistant to the idea that perhaps her daughter may have an issue. I suggested that another camp might be another fit - she was the first registration this year! Help!
A: This camper may have found that her 'role' is the victim and she has actually developed a comfort level in this role. The behavior you describe may serve the purpose of getting her special attention. If you choose to accept this child at your camp, additional supervision will be necessary for all campers involved.
Make sure the staff is following the 4-step process. Also, teach this child behaviors that get her positive attention, without being (or playing) the victim. Teach her social skills and physical skills that are appreciated by other campers her age. This behavioral change is possible, but will take time and effort.
Q: I want to share this webinar with my staff. Will it be posted on-line?
A: Yes, it will be posted on-line at www.BalanceEducation.net. We will also send you a link that you can send to members of your staff.
Q: Are dates still available for this camping season.
A: Yes, dates are still available. Contact Mike toll free at 1-866-768-4803 orMike@BalanceEducation.net.